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  • Angela Gault

Fixed Mindset Vs Growth Mindset

"Nope. I can't do it. I listened to everything that you said, I still tried, but it didn't work. I knew it wouldn't work. I knew I wouldn't be able to do it." *whilst crossing arms as if

to say 'I told you so!'*

Does that sound like you? Have you ever heard yourself say that, either to yourself or out loud to someone else?

Have you convinced yourself before you've even attempted something that you won't be able to accomplish it because what you were trying was out of your comfort zone? Or you had already tried something similar and you had trouble with it?

The fixed mindset has had you in its grips!

"If you have the fixed mindset, you believe that your talents and abilities are set in stone - either you have them or you don't. You must prove yourself over and over, trying to look smart and talented at all costs. This is the path of stagnation." (Carol Dweck - 'Mindset; The new psychology series')

For me, my earliest memory I have of this fixed mindset and of the feeling of "nope! I can't do it" was eleven years old in secondary school.

I was adamant that I’d never be able to learn how to use the internet when I was being taught for the first time in class. We were each sat at the school computers (back in the day when the screen monitors were each the size of a small house) using the earliest version of a search engine. I was so damn certain that it was a waste of time for me to even have to know because *insert flouncy and uncooperative voice with folded arms, swinging on my chair in front of the computer* "What even is the internet anyway sir? It will never catch on."

Hmmm, I think my stubborn pre-teen self definitely underestimated that one!

Fast forward twenty years and the internet definitely did catch on, and I can in fact use it and navigate it pretty much with my eyes closed.

I could learn.

I had the capability.

But when I was eleven years old I chose not to try and to give up immediately.

I had a fixed mindset that was in protectionism mode. I'd told myself I 'would definitely fail', just in case I struggled in my first few attempts and didnt want to lose face. That way when it happened it wouldn't be as embarrasing or hard to take because I'd already set myself up mentally in preparation for that to happen. As mentioned in my last post You can’t teach an old dog new tricks…or so the saying goes… it then goes on to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Lets now have a look at the flip side of the coin, the growth mindset.

"If you have a growth mindset you know that talents can be developed and that great abilities are built over time. This is the path of opportunity-and success." (Carol Dweck - 'Mindset; The new psychology series')

We all have to start somewhere right? We can learn, we just need to have the right open mindset in order to achieve it!

Get started by trying new old things

Smaller projects based on something you did before but not wholeheartedly and felt you didn't accomplish. Starting small and becoming good at these challenges is where you build your confidence, and then go on from this point to tackle the larger tasks as they come your way!

Using myself as an example, I did this by:

1. Doodling: When I was at school I was always doodling on all of the covers of my exercise books. Every single one of them. Nothing special at all, just weird squiggles, but I never did anything with the scribblings. I didn't believe I was creative as I wasn't doing those type of subjects in school, such as art or design or textiles. In January of 2019 I decided to try my hand at being creative and didn't care if what I did was rubbish, I was going to stick with it and practise. I invested in some drawing pads and pens, got started and just kept doodling. I hadn't done any type of creative drawing in years and had never created something from nothing. But I proved myself wrong and even had to confidence to put the designs on mugs!

2. Skipping: I really sucked when I first picked up a skipping rope and I had whip marks all over me because I had the wrong size rope. I was trying to jump too quickly before I'd mastered the basic technique. But after a few weeks of persistence, and buying my own correct length rope that wasn't a torture weapon, I started getting the hang of it and trying new little tricks. Now I'm at such a level where I reckon I could give Anthony Joshua a run for his money, and I've even had a couple of people stop me mid-skip to ask if I can teach them!

3: Playing a 'brain-train' game called 2 Cars: This is a really simple game which you can get as an app on your phone or tablet and is based on a simplest concept. Your left thumb controls the left red car, and your right thumb controls the right blue car. As they both drive in a straight line you have to move the cars left and right independently to dodge the squares and run over the circles to build up points.

Sounds easy right? WRONG! Go and download it now and give it a try, its free. But be warned, it is addictive and highly frustrating. It feels like you have to get your left and right brain to work independently of each other, and be fast with your reflexes. When I started I couldn't get past 1 on the scoreboard. Within thirty minutes I was managing to get 4, but couldn't get past 20 for at least a couple more hours. Now my top score is 1250 *takes a bow and waves to the applauding crowd.* If I'd given up in the first hour I would've thought it was impossible to get past 5 points.

Clearly I was wrong with that assumption too. I didn't actively seek this game to consciously practise the growth mindset, but looking back I realise that's what I'd done.

Now, don't get me wrong, I still find some of my initial reactions to things out of my comfort zone as "Ooooh crap! I can't do this!!" But then I immediately check myself, and shut that negativity down. The small little skills I've become good at in the above examples may seem insignificant in what I've achieved in the grand scheme of things, but it's the small and seemingly inconsequential achievements that can have massive impacts on our mentality.

Next step: Conquering the world. That shouldn't take too long right? Think I can get that done in forty-five minutes and then put my feet up.

So, if you've noticed that you have a fixed mindset mentality with certain aspects of your life that you want to see change in then my question to you is;

What are you going to do about it?

*If you would like information on the Business & Life Coaching services that I offer please do go to my Coaching Services page or email me via my Contact page.




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